News

Internet Favored Over Sex
Techtree News Staff, Dec 17, 2008 1629 hrs IST
A Harris study found that 46% of women and 30% of men would give up sex instead of Internet access for two weeks if forced to choose between them.
I know we all worship Internet and rush to it for almost everything, but choosing net surfing over sex is a bit too startling. Yes, you read it right! A Harris study found that 65% of US adults feel they cannot live without Internet access, and 46% of women and 30% of men would give up sex instead of Internet access for two weeks if forced to choose between them.
The study which is study is sponsored by chip maker Intel states that 71% consider it important or very important to have Internet-enabled devices such as laptops and mobile communications, on hand almost constantly. The survey was conducted online by Harris Interactive among 2,119 adults ages 18 and older.
http://www.techtree.com/India/News/Internet_Favoured_Over_Sex/551-96679-643.html

AXE ads

Here is one more commercial that kind of advertises sex... and is reallyy funnyyy!

Go ask someone else, why don't Go Ask Alice?

The theme of the week on the famous advice webpage, Go Ask Alice, is "Pregnancy ponderings". Personally, I believe it is one of the most important subjects and themes not of the week, but about life. If you visit the page, you will find questions posted by people who are really interested in learning about the subject, and who are currently going through serious problems about pregnancy.
The first post on the webpage is "I'm afraid to tell my mom, 'I'm pregnant' ", posted by a 21 years-old college student. She is asking advice on how she should tell her mom she is in this situation, and thinks it is harder because of her strict ways.
I believe it is extremely important to inform your parents about this. However, I've never been in this situation, and I hope I'll never be in one similar to this one, but I think that telling the person that knows you the most is the right choice.
Of course, it’s not easy, it will never be, and you cannot expect a good response from the person that is expecting the best behavior from you. However, I guarantee that everything will come out for the best!
Good luck to anyone who is going through this, and hopefully is not anyone of you!
If you want to read the whole question and response, visit this page.

Live Unbuttoned

Take a second to watch this video. Personally, I love it, but others may think that the commercial has two meanings. What is your opinion on the "messeges" of the video? Do you think that sex is present anywhere during the commercial?

Movies

Lets make a post in which we can all write about movies that we have watched and we liked or disliked. They can be about whatever you want.(Guys,No porn please:)..)
After everyone comments, I guarantee that more than 50% of the movies will be rated R, and will be advertising sex in some way...

My favorite movies are The Notebook, Titanic, Juno, and Ratatouille:). They all have scenes where "rated R" takes place...Except Ratatouille, its a disney film...

Victoria's Secret

As my previous blog stated, I've been learning a lot while completing my GLIDES project in my english class.
My group and I have been doing a lot of research to support our argument, and to have enough back up information and evidence on the causes of the changing faces of sexuality during the 1970s.
One major factor that I consider one of the most important one is the establishment of Victoria's Secret, and the release of a new "lingerine image".
Victoria Secret was founded in San Francisco in 1977 by Roy Raymond.
"The stores were meant to create a comfortable environment for men, with wood-paneled walls, Victorian details and helpful sales staff. Instead of racks of bras and panties in every size, there were single styles, paired together and mounted on the wall in frames. Men could browse for sexy styles for their girlfriends so they could get "down and dirty" and then sales staff would help estimate the appropriate size, pulling from inventory in the back. In 1982, after 5 years of operations, Roy Raymond sold the company to The Limited.

Analysis
I believe that as a famous actor/actress/musician/etc. you are always being looked up to. When new models come out wearing tiny pieces of clothing that with only one harsh movement can leave them nude, the public's attention is quickly captured. Victoria's Secret influenced the change od sexuality during this decade because of their way of advertising their "clothing."
Women in the 1970s thought, "why can't we wear them if they can"?
Today, Victoria's Secret "is the largest brand and a segment of publicly traded Limited Brands with sales surpassing $5 billion and an operating income of $1 billion in 2006. Victoria's Secret is known for its fashion shows and catalogues, which feature top fashion models. "

Just for fun:
Talking about Victoria's Secret, the Victoria's Secret fashion show only two weeks, December 3rd. If you missed it, here's a small part of it.

Starbucks goes RED!

As you all know, everyone today is trying to help save other's lives. Starbucks joined the group too by "going (RED)"
On December 1st, Starbucks started a campaign through the very popular (RED) organization. Every time you buy a Starbucks (red) exclusive beverage, the Peppermint Mocha Twist, Gingersnap Latte, and the Espresso Truffle, Starbucks will donate 5 cents to the Project (RED) Global Fund.
If you are interested in donating, visit www.Starbucks.com/RED and join the group!!
Feel good by saving others' lives.

World AIDS day

I INVITE EVERYONE TO CLICK ON THE IMAGE BELOW AND HELP REDUCE THE STIGMA AROUND HIV/AIDS!!

In four easy steps, you can help reduce the stigma around HIV/AIDS:
1) Take a picture of yourself wearing a red ribbon. Be creative!
2)Add the photo to your social network profiles, Twitter, blog, and/or website before December 1st. Leave it up for at least a week.
3)Add your photo to the “World AIDS Day 08” Flickr group!
4)Encourage your friends to do the same and to promote HIV testing!

Aids

Florida
35,723

Did you know that Florida is the second state with the most people living with HIV? The first one is New York.
In Florida, 35,723 people are currently dealing with HIV (not aids), and 46,663 are living with AIDS.

Notes
The latest statistics on AIDS & HIV in the USA were published in March 2008 by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). The next data are due November 2008.
There is often a delay between the time of diagnosis of HIV or AIDS, or the time of death, and the time at which the event is reported. For this reason the CDC estimates the number of people living with HIV or AIDS by adjusting for reporting delays. No adjustment is made for incomplete reporting. On this page, all numbers are CDC estimates.

The term "living with AIDS" includes every living person who has ever received an AIDS diagnosis, regardless of their current state of health. The term "living with HIV (and not AIDS)" includes every living person who has been diagnosed with HIV through the confidential name-based system, but has never been diagnosed with AIDS.
http://www.avert.org/usastats.htm

How can you help?..Using protection, saves you life, your partner's, and your children's.

GLIDES INFO!

As you all know, we've been working on our GLIDES projects the past couple of days. My group and I chose to do it about "the changing faces of sexuality"
After doing all the research, I've been learning a lot about how sex became a new "trend", and the causes of it.
For example, the music. Different groups like AC/DC and Sex Pistols came out with songs about sex. For example, ACDC's "You shook me all night long":

She was a fast machine
She kept her motor clean
She was the best damn woman that I ever seen
She had the sightless eyes
Telling me no lies
Knockin' me out with those American thighs
Taking more than her share
Had me fighting for air
She told me to come but I was already there
'Cause the walls start shaking
The earth was quaking
My mind was aching
And we were making it and you

Shook me all night long
Yeah you shook me all night long


Does anyone else know another song that might've had influence in the changing faces of sexuality?

Parents..Can't live with them, can't live without them.

If anyone read my post on Stoklosa's class blog, you can understand how I feel about my parents.
Lately they've been driving me crazy!..not only that, and to make it worse, I decided to have "The talk" with my mom during all these chaos, and now she's just worse!
I feel better though, after talking to her I feel that if I could talk to her about sex, I can talk to her about anything. Unfortunately, I chose the wrong moment to do it, and now she's just being a pain in the @$$.
So everyone, I recommend having the talk...just choose a good moment!!

Talent Show 2008

For all of those who had the privilege of experiencing the best show ever given in a high school, the show that left a mark in the history of Cypress Bay,consider yourself lucky.

In this post I just want everyone to give me their opinions about the show.

What did you like the most about it?
What didn't you like??
I personally thought it was amazing...!:)I wouldn't change anything about it, would you?

Survey

Hey everyone..
So I created a poll asking who knew what an emergency contraception is..Only one person voted, and the answer was.."I've never heard about it"

It is very important to know what it is, therefore im going to give everyone a little heads up.

Emergency contraception is birth control that prevents pregnancy after sex, which is why it is sometimes called "the morning after pill," "the day after pill," or "morning after contraception." You can use emergency contraception right away - or up to five days after sex - if you think your birth control failed, you didn't use contraception, or you were forced to have sex.


(http://ec.princeton.edu/emergency-contraception.html)
Emergency contraception makes it much less likely you will get pregnant. But emergency contraceptives are not as effective as birth control that's used before or during sex, like the pill or condoms. So if you are sexually active or planning to be, don't use emergency contraception as your only protection against pregnancy. Also, emergency contraception does not protect against sexually transmitted infections, like HIV (only condoms do).


The first type of emergency contraceptive pill contains a hormone called progestin (learn more about these emergency contraceptive pills). This is the only type of pill available specifically for emergency contraception in the United States (the brand name is Plan B). In other countries, you can find several progestin-only emergency contraceptives and daily birth control pills. Plan B and other progestin-only pills are the most effective emergency contraceptive pills, reducing your risk of getting pregnant by 89% (What does that mean?). You are also less likely to have side effects if you use these pills for emergency contraception.



The second type of emergency contraceptive pill uses both progestin and a hormone called estrogen (learn more about these "combined" emergency contraceptive pills). Many brands of the daily pill can be used for emergency contraception in the United States (find out which ones here). (A specific combined morning after pill is no longer available in the United States because the company that made the one approved here called Preven has stopped selling it). In many other countries, you can find both combined emergency contraceptive pills and daily pills. These pills cut your chances of getting pregnant by 75% (What does that mean?), and you are more likely to experience side effects like nausea and vomiting.


Remember:

Some people call emergency contraceptive pills "morning after pills," but you don't have to wait until the morning after. You can take the pills right away or use them up to five days after sex if you did not use birth control, you think your birth control failed, or you were forced to have sex. (Wondering if you really could get pregnant? Find out here.) Also, the sooner you take emergency contraceptive pills, the better they work.
You can use pills labeled for emergency contraception or certain brands of daily birth control pills to prevent pregnancy after sex. (Find out which ones here).

More about Dr.Drew

Dr.Drew,the "protagonist" f the show, is the host of another famous VH1 show, "Celebrity Rehab with Dr.Drew"

"Celebrity Rehab" is the first television series to chronicle the dramatic, unscripted real life experiences of a group of actual celebrities as they make the life-changing decision to enter themselves into a drug, alcohol and addiction treatment program with the sincere desire to achieve true rehabilitation and recovery.

This compelling true account of addiction, healing, and redemption is being supervised with great compassion and insight by renowned addiction and recovery expert Dr. Drew Pinsky, Medical Director of the Department of Chemical Dependency Services at Southern California's Las Encinas Hospital, and host of the long-running radio and television advice series LOVELINE".

This inspirational journey begins inside one of Southern California's private addiction and recovery treatment facilities, the Pasadena Recovery Center, where a group of well-known celebrities make the brave decision to commit themselves to a legitimate protocol of supervised medical treatment over a period of several weeks At every step in
this challenging process, viewers at home will witness the real true life struggles of these celebrity patients, who ultimately appear in their sincerest human form as regular people in need of a helping hand and earnestly striving for recovery, health and future happiness.

The cast include "Rodney King, the man whose videotaped beating by police officers sparked the 1992 LA riots.Also in “Rehab” are former stripper-turned-”American Idol” Season 1 finalist Nikki McKibbin, actress Tawny Kitaen, model/actress Amber Smith, former Guns N’ Roses drummer Steven Adler and Rod Stewart’s troubled son Sean Stewart.

I believe that this show is shocking, it is amazing to see how people that had the s-called "perfect lives" are now suffering with addiction and facing new problems everyday. For example, Steven Adler, former Guns N Roses drummer, was one of the famous faces of the 80's. Today, he is in the show, facing his addictions and realizing that everything he had is now gone.
Dr.Drew is an amazing host, he clearly knows the subject,and considering he now hosts two famous shows, he has all the experienced needed.

(www.vh1.com)

Take a moment to read this story.
http://www.sexetc.org/story/2067/


After reading her story, don’t you feel like people should be more concerned about their sex life?
She’s only nineteen years old and she’s already suffering from a lifelong STD.
I agree with this person, who preferred to remain anonymous, “the next best thing after being abstinent (which I know how unrealistic that is for many) is to truly know whom you’re having sex with.”

Hey everyoneee!!
I found this hilarious video on youtube, I'm sure you're going to enjoy it. Leave a comment and share your thoughts.

"The Girl"

Who hasn't been told the story about "that girl who was controlled by her boyfriend and ended up pregnant, and alone". All of us, either by our parents, teachers, or friends. But, does that girl actually exist? Or is it just a figure of our parent's imagination to keep us away from sex?
Yes, the girl exists..
There are many ways in which a girl/guy can say no. Here's one that will take you a long time to learn, but will always work;)



Video from youtube. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLdFreZRw0s

Life changes

Here's a story I want to share with you..
I began working a couple of months ago (for service hours=[ ), and I met this girl who I really began to admired. She had just graduated from Cypress, and she was already working in a pre-school.
After about three months working with her, she suddenly stopped attending work, and no one knew why.
Only last week I found out that she is three months pregnant, having a baby girl. She's only nineteen, didn't even get the chance to begin college.
If that happened to you, (knock on wood), do you think you could handle the responsibilities??
Would you EVER think about abortion?
If it happened to her, it can happen to anyone, right?

The following video is part of an episode of "Sex...With Mom and Dad"

After watching the video, how would YOU feel if you were Tiara??

If you ever wondered..

Durex Survey (2003) Highlights:

• People have sex an average of 127 times a year.
• Three quarters of those polled are happy with their sex lives.
• Eastern Europeans (Hungarians, Bulgarians, and Russians) are the most sexually active (150)
• David Beckham was chosen as the sexiest man. George Clooney and Ben Affleck round out the top three.
• Jennifer Lopez was chosen as the sexiest woman. Catherine Zeta Jones came in second. Halle Berry and Britney Spears tied for third place.
• 45% of those taking the survey reported having a one night stand.
• Those in Thailand, China, and Vietnam were the most contented with their sex life.
  Fins and Russians were the least happy.
• Americans were low on the frequency list in 2003 at 118 times per year.
• The three countries with the lowest sexual frequency were Sweden (102), Maylasia (100), and Singapore (96).
• 48% of women admitted to faking an orgasm.
  
• According to the Durex Survey (2001)
• Americans appear to have the most sex at 132 times a year, with the Russians close behind at 122 times a year, the French at 121, and the Greeks at 115.
• The countries with the lowest frequency of sex are Japan (37 times per), Malaysia (62) and China (69).
• Couples living together report having sex 146 times per year.
• Married couples make love 98 times per year.
• Single folks are having sex the least at 49 times a year.
• Four percent of the respondents to the survey claim to have sex daily.
  57% say they have sex at least once per week.
  

"People around the world would rather go out with their friends than have sex. More than a fifth (22%) choose their peers rather than having sex with a partner (19%), while a further 10% prefer to either play sport or go shopping."

See, NOT EVERYONE is having sex=D

Talking about it

http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2008/if-20080617p522-sex.php
Hey everyone!

The link above will take you to another page with important information that might be useful for some, or all of you. Please take your time to read it, there are many questions that you can have and all the answers you need.

Guys, like Mrs.Stoklosa says, this is "a subject that is usually a bit taboo", but it is an important subject that you either talk about, or just think about it by yourself. I want to be helpful and show everyone how important this "taboo subject" is.

Abortion Statistics

The following is a list of useful abortion statistics as well as some facts on abortifacients. All abortion numbers are derived from pro-abortion sources courtesy of The Alan Guttmacher Institute and Planned Parenthood's Family Planning Perspectives.

WORLDWIDE
Number of abortions per year: Approximately 42 Million

Number of abortions per day: Approximately 115,000

Where abortions occur:83% of all abortions are obtained in developing countries and 17% occur in developed countries.

© Copyright 1996-2008, The Alan Guttmacher Institute. (www.agi-usa.org)

UNITED STATES
Number of abortions per year: 1.37 Million (1996)

Number of abortions per day: Approximately 3,700
Who's having abortions (age):52% of women obtaining abortions in the U.S. are younger than 25: Women aged 20-24 obtain 32% of all abortions; Teenagers obtain 20% and girls under 15 account for 1.2%.

Who's having abortions (race):While white women obtain 60% of all abortions, their abortion rate is well below that of minority women. Black women are more than 3 times as likely as white women to have an abortion, and Hispanic women are roughly 2 times as likely.

Who's having abortions (marital status)?64.4% of all abortions are performed on never-married women; Married women account for 18.4% of all abortions and divorced women obtain 9.4%.

Who's having abortions (religion):Women identifying themselves as Protestants obtain 37.4% of all abortions in the U.S.; Catholic women account for 31.3%, Jewish women account for 1.3%, and women with no religious affiliation obtain 23.7% of all abortions. 18% of all abortions are performed on women who identify themselves as "Born-again/Evangelical".

Who's having abortions (income)?Women with family incomes less than $15,000 obtain 28.7% of all abortions; Women with family incomes between $15,000 and $29,999 obtain 19.5%; Women with family incomes between $30,000 and $59,999 obtain 38.0%; Women with family incomes over $60,000 obtain 13.8%.

Why women have abortions1% of all abortions occur because of rape or incest; 6% of abortions occur because of potential health problems regarding either the mother or child, and 93% of all abortions occur for social reasons (i.e. the child is unwanted or inconvenient).

At what gestational ages are abortions performed:52% of all abortions occur before the 9th week of pregnancy, 25% happen between the 9th & 10th week, 12% happen between the 11th and 12th week, 6% happen between the 13th & 15th week, 4% happen between the 16th & 20th week, and 1% of all abortions (16,450/yr.) happen after the 20th week of pregnancy.

Likelihood of abortion:An estimated 43% of all women will have at least 1 abortion by the time they are 45 years old. 47% of all abortions are performed on women who have had at least one previous abortion.

Abortion coverage:48% of all abortion facilities provide services after the 12th week of pregnancy. 9 in 10 managed care plans routinely cover abortion or provide limited coverage. About 14% of all abortions in the United States are paid for with public funds, virtually all of which are state funds. 16 states (CA, CT, HI, ED, IL, MA , MD, MD, MN, MT, NJ, NM, NY, OR, VT, WA and WV) pay for abortions for some poor women.

© Copyright 1998, The Alan Guttmacher Institute. (www.agi-usa.org)© Copyright 1997, The Alan Guttmacher Institute. (www.agi-usa.org)© Copyright 1995, Family Planning Perspectives© Copyright 1988, Family Planning Perspectives

http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/fastfacts.html

About Me

Today I feel like sharing MY own opinions about the subject of this blog, sex.
I believe I am not the right person to tell anyone not to have sexual relationships; I have no control over your decision, and it is a decision that must be analyzed by only yourself and your partner.
Lets speak with the truth, as much as your parents and teachers tell you not to have sex, it only makes you more eager to experience it. This blog is not meant to tell everyone “Sex is a disease, don’t do it!”, because that is definitely not what I believe its right. I started this blog to open your eyes and warn you that sex is not all about pleasure, it has its consequences.

One of the consequences is pregnancy, and then comes abortion. I am 100% against abortion. If a teenager is “responsible enough” to make decisions and be involved in sexual relationships, then aren’t they capable of taking care of a child?
You can disagree with me, but my opinions will never change.

Guys, whatever you do, never regret any decisions. (Except killing a baby, THAT you will regret for the rest of your life)
If after having sexual relationships you feel like it was a wrong decision, do not regret it. Everyone will learn something from his or her experiences, obviously I am not saying that you will learn only about sex, but you will learn something about yourself, and you may grow as a person.

If you have any questions about me, please ask.
Soon I will be posting more frequently asked questions and answers. If there is ANY SUBJECT you want me to talk about, or post information about it, TELL ME! and lastly, I love to hear back from you guys, tell me if you like the blog, and if you think it is missing anything.

Valen.

Hey guys!...
Soon I will be posting about abortion, the statistics, what it is, and what I think about the subject. Here is a video I found in youtube, I should warn you, the images are not "pretty", but it is reality.
Please don't mind leaving a comment and your opinions on you actually think is the right choice.

Did you know?

Did you know that...

Statistics on Teen Sex

• Nationally, more than half of teenagers are virgins until they are at least 17 years of age (Sex and America's Teenagers, The Alan Guttmacher Institute, New York, 1994)
• In the U.S., 7 in 10 women who had sex before age 14, and 6 in 10 of those who had sex before age 15 report having had sex involuntarily. (Facts in Brief: Teen Sex and Pregnancy, The Alan Guttmacher Institute, New York, 1996)
• Nationally, one-quarter of 15 year old females and less than 30% of 15 year old males have had sex, compared with 66% of 18 year old females, and 68% of 18 year old males who have had sexual intercourse. (A Statistical Portrait of Adolescent Sex, Contraception, and Childbearing, National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, Washington, DC, 1998).

Statistics on Teen pregnancy

• Nationally, nearly one million young women under age 20 become pregnant each year. That means close to 2800 teens get pregnant each day.( Facts in Brief: Teen Sex and Pregnancy, The Alan Guttmacher Institute, New York, 1996).
• Approximately 4 in 10 young women in the U.S. become pregnant at least once before turning 20 years old.( Facts in Brief: Teen Sex and Pregnancy, The Alan Guttmacher Institute, New York, 1996).

Sexually Transmitted Diseases Among Teens

• In the U.S., 1 in 4 sexually active teens become infected with an STD every year.2 Some common STDs are chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc.
• 134,000 new cases of syphilis are occurring each year, the highest infection rate in 40 years.
• 1.3 million new gonorrhea cases occur annually.
• 24 million new cases of human papilloma virus (HPV) occur annually, including a high percentage among teens.
• 63% of all sexually transmitted disease (STD) cases occur among people less than 25 years of age.
• Condoms provide virtually no protection against an STD called the human papillloma virus (HPV). HPV is the most common medical problem seen by gynecologists and causes almost all cervical cancer in the U.S. 80% of people who have a sexually transmitted disease experience no noticeable sypmtoms. (Moscicki, B., et al, "The Use and Limitations of Endocervical Gram Stains...," American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, 157:1, July, 1987)
• Condoms have a poor record for prevention of pregnancy, with failure rates of up to 13% or more per year. (Jones, E.F., and Forrest, J.D., "Contraceptive Failure in the United States: Revised Estimates...," Family Planning Perspectives, 21:3, May/June 1989)
• A meta-analysis of condom effectiveness from in vivo studies by Dr. Susan Weller suggests a 31% failure rate in preventing HIV transmission. (Weller, Susan, "A Meta-Analysis of Condom Effectiveness in Reducing Sexually Transmitted HIV," Social Science and Medicine, 36:12, 1993)

If it sounds disgusting, imagine having it!

Sex, Lies and HIV

• 34% of men and 10% of women have told lies in order to have sex.
• 68% of men and 59% of women have been involved with more than one person that their current partner doesn¹t know about.
• 47% of men and 42% of women would understate the number of their previous partners in order to convince someone to have sex."Sex, Lies and HIV," The New England Journal of Medicine, (March 15, 1990) -- the results of a study of 665 southern California college students .

Facts on Reproductive Rights, from the National Organization for Women

• The Pill fails 6.2% of the time.
• The condom fails 14.2% of the time.
• The diaphragm fails 15.6% of the time.
• Spermicide fails 26.3% of the time.

More statistics and opinions

• Almost 70% of teens regret having had sex as early as they did.
• Ninety-four percent of teens say they want a strong message to abstain until at least after high school.
• Guys are less and less accepting of casual sex - the proportion of adolescent males aged 17-19 who approve of premarital sex when a couple does not plan to marry decreased from 80% in 1988 to 71% in 1995.
• 60% of college freshmen disagree that hooking up with a casual acquaintance is okay.
• You know drugs and alcohol change your perspective and that they can cause you to make really bad decisions about sex. Using alcohol, cigarettes, and/or illicit drugs significantly increases the likelihood that boys and girls will begin having sexual intercourse before age 16. And teens 15 and older who drink are seven times likelier to have sexual intercourse and twice as likely to have it with four or more partners than non-drinking teens. More than one-half of teens (53%) say the main reason teens do not use protection is because of drinking or using drugs.
• More than one-half of teens (52%) surveyed recently said that one of the main reasons that teens do not use birth control is because their partners don't want to.(www.stayteen.org)

MTV's Its Your (Sex) Life

1. TAKE YOUR TIME

• Abstinence is effective in preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, but only works if you don't have sex of any kind.
• It is impossible for someone to read your mind. Don't expect your partner to magically know what you want.
• Acknowledge that this may be difficult to talk about. Reveal your own level of comfort. For example say, "This isn't easy for me to talk about, but it's something that I've been thinking about a lot."
• Request permission to bring up the topic. Be sensitive to when it may or may not be appropriate to discuss (e.g. not right before an organic chemistry final exam or just as your partner is falling asleep).
• Give your partner permission to say something that might be upsetting to you by allowing him or her to finish talking before you talk. Listen to what your partner is saying before responding.
• Respect your partner's attitudes, values and feelings about sex even though they may be very different from yours.
• Trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe or coerced into doing or saying something, stop and remove yourself from the situation.

2. Talk about it

• It is important to be able to talk about sex with your partner. Direct conversations can be uncomfortable but get easier if you know your facts.
• Choose a time and place for your talk that is relaxed and comfortable, before you are intimate (that means before you take your clothes off!).
• Start off on a positive note. Let your partner know that you really care about him or her and that's why you want to talk.
• Be up front and direct about your feelings and what you feel comfortable doing now. If you are feeling a little embarrassed or shy, take heart - most people feel that way in this kind of situation, so don't let that hold you back.
• If both of you decide you want to have a sexual relationship, start off by getting tested together. You should also discuss with your health care provider what STDs you should be screened for.
• If at anytime, you change your mind it's always okay to hold off. Remember: It's Your (Sex) Life.
• If one of you has an STD, it is important to be honest at the start - both for your partner's well-being as well as yours. Having an STD doesn't mean you can't have a relationship, just that you may need to take precautions.

3. Use protection

• Even if you are using other forms of birth control like the Pill, the Shot and the Patch, the only way to protect yourself against HIV and other STDs.

4. Get tested

• An estimated one in four people who have HIV in the United States do not know they are infected. Getting tested for HIV is confidential and quick!

Sex and teens today

In today's society, sex is being talked about everywhere. From "Juno", a film about "an independent-minded teenager confronting an unplanned pregnancy and the subsequent events that put pressures of adult life onto her", to "The Secret life of the American Teenager", an ABC's series about teen drama, focusing on the "relationships between families and friends dealing with the unexpected teenage pregnancy of character Amy Juergens".
Even though there are many shows and films based on teenage sex life, there are only a few that involves explanations and give teenagers advice on how they should treat their own sex life. One of these shows is "Sex...With mom and dad."

Here are some questions asked by TV Guide and answered directly by Dr.Drew.

TVGuide.com: Sex...with Mom and Dad is based on a British show. How will your version differ from the original?
Dr. Drew Pinksy: My problem with the program overseas is that it was so narrowly focused on the sexuality, it missed the point that sexuality is a piece, a symptom of a much larger dynamic. In this country, the producers gave me a chance to work on the overall dynamic, and then they could then focus in, from an editing standpoint, on the arc of it.

TVGuide.com: That's a good thing, because it sounds like you felt you were rolling the dice with this.
Pinsky: Well, that's sort of what I do in media. The people who create TV create TV, and I don't really know how to do that. I might have some instincts, but one of my instincts is to let the people who create great television do that, and just find a way to insert myself into it in such a way that something good happens.

TVGuide.com: Based on some preliminary scenes of the new series, it seems like everyone involved is authentic and really participating.
Pinksy: We cover tons of territory, so they really have to look at everything. And that's what I like about it. One of the things that really struck me about the families we worked with was, one of the themes that recurred in this little group was a deep fear — I mean a profound fear, sort of a rigid fear, that somehow, by just broaching the topic with their kids, they would create some sort of endorsement of behavior. The parents were so surprised that they could begin to have a conversation about this topic, and maybe for the first time, the kids were listening.

TVGuide.com: Why is talking about sex still so hard for people, and for families?
Pinksy: We don't help parents understand what they can do. But I would tell people, you really need to get the conversation going between eight and 12. And by conversation, I mean conversation. Just offer open-ended questions and opportunities.

TVGuide.com: What would you ask a kid of that age? Call me old-fashioned, but eight is really young.
Pinksy: It is very young, but look at what they're exposed to on television. It's very simple. You go, 'Hey, do you have any questions about this?' And that's it. Present open-ended opportunities. And I would urge against jumping in to some sort of lesson. The kids would freak out.

TVGuide.com: It seems like there's so much information out there for young people, yet, are kids still in the dark about sex?
Pinksy: They're not in the dark, they're in the dark about the implications of all this. They're in the dark about the emotional reality, they're in the dark about the biological reality, they're in denial about this thing that has become a drug in our culture, rather than an expression about intimate relations. It's too far the other way: It's not that they don't know about it, they know everything, but at the same time, they know nothing. And that's the problem. So the human piece is left out, the human reality is taken away, it's all thought of very casually.

TVGuide.com: You work with people on TV all the time, but what does it really take for young people to change behavior, even with all this information?
Pinksy: That is the question. By the way, when you solve that, let's go to Stockholm together and get the Nobel Prize, because this has been the constant struggle in the adolescent age group, because they're wonderfully knowledgeable, and yet we've done little to change their behavior. What my approach has been is to create a relatable source, that is to say, study cases. They don't care what I say, but when they hear a young person going through a heavy experience, and I'm able to make sense of it for them, then they hear what I'm saying.

TVGuide.com: Was having "the talk" any easier for you, because of your training?
Pinsky: Absolutely not. You're still just rendered parent. Maybe it's worse, because there's an imperative behind it and I know when I'm falling short. Nothing makes it easier. Maybe having faith in what needs to happen makes it a little easier — knowing it's the right thing to do, knowing the empiric result — but it doesn’t make it easier.

TVGuide.com: It seems like there's so much of a focus on teen pregnancy right now, both in the media and in politics. Why do you think that is, and what's MTV's relationship to that?
Pinksy: It's a huge issue, it's been a massive issue for decades. What's going to be good for young people? All of us want young people to make better choices, to delay their sexual contact, to make sure that they fully understand the implications of those choices — which of course, they never do — and to be prepared to make those choices if they decide to go into something physical. How to go from point A to point B is what's galvanizing.
I will tell you that the biggest issue in my mind is surviving our destroyed family system. Kids that come from chaos create chaos. They're the ones we can affect the most through media. They're affected most powerfully negatively through media, and I think the most positively affected through media. So it becomes our responsibility to send those messages of consequence to that population, because they don't trust it through the usual sources.

All about Dr.Drew Pinsky

Dr. David Drew Pinsky, better known as Dr. Drew, was born September 4, 1958 in Pasadena, California. Drew used to go on house calls with his father and decided young that he wanted to be a doctor, too. Drew attended Polytechnic High School, a private school in Pasadena, before going to Amherst College in Amherst, Massachusetts.

In his role as a medical doctor, Pinsky is Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Keck School of Medicine at USC, Medical Director for the Department of Chemical Dependency Services at Las Encinas Hospital in Pasadena, California, staff member at Huntington Memorial Hospital, and a private practitioner.(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Drew_Pinsky).

Dr.Drew started doing the radio version of Loveline in 1983, when he was in his third year of medical school. KROQ was just a small, local station then. Now, Drew does the radio show Sunday through Thursday, 10:00 PM to midnight (Pacific Time).In his little spare time, Drew likes to play with his children, read by the pool, play the piano, and sing opera (he's a baritone & he trained for 12 years).

Mini Biography By: Sara Swihart (http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005314/bio)

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